Harsh Lessons
There are certain things that you realise in your dealings with people everyday...ordinary people who you meet everyday often give you insights into things that you probably never thought of before.
One such realisation struck me in the recent past,which I'd like to share.We spend our entire lives meeting new people,getting acquainted and making friends.Very often people have lots of friends,but when it comes down to it,there are only a select few who are actually genuine.People don't care about the friends they have now as they feel they will make new friends later on and replace the ones that they do have.Thats why very often when fights happen,many of them just resign it to the fates and say that maybe this was how its meant to be.Its sad but I have seen it happen.And if you actually sit down and think about it you realise that even your closest friend does not know you or everything about you completely.Then why do we bother?
People I once thought were my friends have become strangers to me and I wonder how that happened.I often question myself,but I seem to draw a blank.But this has not shook my faith in friendship because i now realise that mine is not an isolated case.It just hurts to know that your so-called best friend is not the person you once knew and cared about.
Ultimately all of us are alone,but we have a constant need to surround ourselves with people who are our friends.I just hate the fact that friendship comes with an expiry date!!!
Ranjana
One such realisation struck me in the recent past,which I'd like to share.We spend our entire lives meeting new people,getting acquainted and making friends.Very often people have lots of friends,but when it comes down to it,there are only a select few who are actually genuine.People don't care about the friends they have now as they feel they will make new friends later on and replace the ones that they do have.Thats why very often when fights happen,many of them just resign it to the fates and say that maybe this was how its meant to be.Its sad but I have seen it happen.And if you actually sit down and think about it you realise that even your closest friend does not know you or everything about you completely.Then why do we bother?
People I once thought were my friends have become strangers to me and I wonder how that happened.I often question myself,but I seem to draw a blank.But this has not shook my faith in friendship because i now realise that mine is not an isolated case.It just hurts to know that your so-called best friend is not the person you once knew and cared about.
Ultimately all of us are alone,but we have a constant need to surround ourselves with people who are our friends.I just hate the fact that friendship comes with an expiry date!!!
Ranjana
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Long back, when I got the email from Varun about this "new" blog, and i saw the plethora of addresses in the 'To' line, I thought "O my! This is going to be great!" But what happened? We have only a bunch of members who are registered in here, and some of them even forget there is something like this. (And some are mad about their own blogs, they only post hi-visit-my-blog-bye here). All others, which is sadly a majority, are left to our hope. We hope they are fine, but are they really?
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ADTC, at Sun Feb 12, 11:00:00 PM GMT+5:30
Even the great master, time,
Cannot do friends apart,
For nothing can break the promise,
Of friendship made by a sincere heart.
Hi Ranjana,
To tell you the truth, I don't quite agree with you when you say that friends come with expiry dates....I think that a friend once made is a friend forever.And in this context, afriend who will forget you once he makes new friends, I don't think was ever a friend at all.
But, having said this, there are times when all of us have a feeling that a friend doesn't care anymore...and I think that the best thing to do in such a situation would be to continue to trust your friend, trust that he will always be there for you when you need him,(which Iam sure is true if he is a real friend),for, friendship is but a synonym to "trust".
I can't quite comment on your situation since I don't know what happened, but, this is my personal opinion.
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Venkat, at Mon Feb 13, 01:47:00 PM GMT+5:30
i know friendships are relationships that last....guess like u said,i have made a few mistakes...
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ranjana, at Mon Feb 13, 09:27:00 PM GMT+5:30
I think you have misunderstood what I said....I am not trying to say that you are losing friends because of your mistakes alone.....all that Iam trying to say is that if a friendship is really a true one then there is no reason why it should not last rather than 'expire' very soon.
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Venkat, at Tue Feb 14, 10:24:00 AM GMT+5:30
Hmm...i'd disagree with the both of you and also agree with on a few points..
I look at things this way - friendship yeah is great, but enjoy it while it lasts. How ever close we are to some one we cant't really say what will happen over time. Because people tend to change..and we cant really stop them. So everytime I build a relationship i give it all i can but also keep in my mind that it may not last forever.
But as Venkat was saying, friendships can last.. but for a friendship to last both the people need to take an active part in keeping it alive. And you cant really blame someone if they chose to change or you cant really blame yourself for that matter, because in the end..if everyone thought about everyone else this world would have been so much of a better place and we wouldnt have so many people with so many problems.
And if you question yourself and draw a blank everytime, that doesnt really mean you are wrong and its your fault can it? Infact if something is your fault you wouldnt be able to not think of it...unless you are some concienceless thing...
Give all you got but dont expect the return, and when you dont you'll see it coming ten fold in a different way in another form.. Thats what most people say, but its difficult not to expect..
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